Sunday, January 18, 2015

I'm Not Going to Light a Piece of Paper On Fire...But I Promise It's Good

This week’s first set of articles, I believe, set up a good bookend to the start of our class on how to carry oneself with a measure of confidence and assertiveness. While Molina and Carpenter’s articles emphasize the importance of how one portrays themselves outwardly, Cain’s writing is a reminder that the end goal is not to change the core of who one is.
In terms of leadership and what it means to become a strong leader in any line of work, there must be a balance struck between being considerate of others’ feelings and remaining confident in one’s own words and actions, lest one drive oneself crazy with thoughts of others’ judgments. In my own experience with working with various community leaders, the most effective leader is always one who values the position of others over the position of themselves. While an effective leader understands how to assert themselves, they are not overbearing in their beliefs and are equally a listener as they are a talker.
Focusing on Cain’s article, “Shyness: Evolutionary Tactic?” there is an important idea made about the stigma that society places on those who are naturally an introvert or whose personalities are inclined to listen rather than speak. One question that could be asked is: where does this stigma derive its origins from and will researching its sources give way to eventual changed perceptions? This stigma that a person whose traits are talkative and outgoing trump that of quiet and introverted leads to people feeling that they bear a burden merely for who they are. Each person holds a personality that has its own advantages and disadvantages and society must not hold one type of personality above another, because in our world of leaders, diversity in opinion and personality are at the core of what it takes to be effective and unified.
Additionally, each of these three articles were pointed in the direction of women who lack confidence, which gives insight into a gender gap that is rooted in our systemic, patriarchal society—in general, women are more likely to feel marginalized in professional settings, and this gives way to half of the population feeling as if their identity is of lesser importance. For women, gaining the will to be assertive in your rights and confident in your beliefs becomes the act of “freeing yourself from the way your body reinforces your presumed place in the social hierarchy” (Carpenter). Society as a whole, including both men and women, needs to challenge its inherent assumptions of patriarchal power. At the same time, however, women need to have a self-realization that with time, they can become comfortable in a seat of power and they already have the exact same credentials as the man sitting next to them.

Perhaps studying who the French woman is will inspire our class to carry ourselves with the same kind of confidence and embody what all three writers encourage us, as readers, to be…

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